Terrible Twos!

Ok so we’re going through what people call the terrible twos stage.  Below are some tips to help you cope.

 

  1. I found that tantrums usually happen when the child feels they are not being heard.  Try to catch it before it develops fully by listening to what they are trying to tell you.  Are they tired, unsettled, hungry?
  2. Sometimes they can’t always communicate which leads to frustration on both sides.  Again actually coming down to their level physically and asking what they want can help.
  3. We all have busy lifestyles and never seem to have time for everything.  Make sure you set aside quality time with your child every day.  Playing, cooking, colouring, painting, going to the park – whatever it is it’s time between the two of you.
  4. Be firm – no means no.  These little kiddies are very clever and will learn what pushes your buttons and how to get their own way.  Stick to your guns so they know you are being serious.
  5. Use distraction techniques – pick them up take them in the garden for fresh air, ask them if they want to watch their favourite programme or nursery rhyme or play with a favourite toy.
  6. It’s really hard but try not to shout, keep calm, take deep breaths (lots!), be firm and hopefully they will start to realise you follow through with what you say.
  7. Triggers such as being out later than normal, going to Pre-School, potty training, new environments can all be triggers to make them unsettled.  Be wary of these times.
  8. Play dates with other children will help them get used to being around their peers.  They probably won’t play together yet but can start to learn to share (or fight over the same toy!).
  9. Sometimes it can get too much for the parent too – we also need time out.  Let someone look after your child, even if it’s for an hour and take a long bath, walk, read a book, meet a friend, listen to music or shut yourself away.  Anything that makes you feel relaxed and refreshed.
  10. Remind them you love them, shower them with kisses and cuddles.  They grow up fast!

To dummy or not to dummy!

My little baby girl often has her fingers in her mouth due to teething and her gums are obviously aching.  We are using teething gel but I do feel she is often in discomfort.  I also have tried various teethers.  One of the teether’s have water in so you can put it in the fridge to cool it down so it’s more soothing on the gums.  She doesn’t seem to like any of the teethers that we’ve given her, I’m not sure if it’s because she can’t quite control her hand and keep it in her mouth or just doesn’t enjoy it.  She promptly throws it and starts to chew her fingers.

She rubs her head quite often and so has hair in her fingers so we thought it might be an idea to give her a dummy as we thought this might be easier to keep clean.  But on the flip side ideally I didn’t want to give her a dummy as I don’t want her to get addicted to it and also for orthodontic reasons it’s probably not ideal.

Anyway a couple of weeks ago I was given some dummies and I thought it was a sign to give it a try!  I gave her the dummy and surprise surprise she didn’t like it and threw it straight out.  I have tried a few times again when we have gone out just so she has it to soothe herself but she doesn’t seem to like it.

So for now I have decided to hold on the dummy but I may try it again just for when we are out and I can’t feed her just to soothe her.

Let me have your thoughts on dummies below.

17 Week old baby

Hi

All babies develop at different rates and have milestones at various stages but I thought it would be nice to share what my little baby girl is doing at 17 weeks.

At 17 weeks she often has her fingers in her mouth and at times tries to put her whole hand in – I think this is due to her gums aching.  For this I am giving her teething gel and teethers which she has for about 10 seconds then throws away as she prefers her own fingers!

She also had her immunisations last week which neither she nor I enjoyed!  I’m glad the next one’s are now when she is a year old.

Other things she is doing:
Sucks her fingers to soothe herself to sleep
Smiling
Laughing
More easily distracted at feeding times
Plays with feet
Follows me with her eyes when I put her in the cot so sometimes I have to stand there for a while
Has different recognisable cries/shouts for when she’s hungry or wants picking up for example
Feeding less often
Enjoys playing in her bouncer and with the baby gym

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